“Confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have. How can anyone see how great you are if you cant see it yourself?”
Up until my mid 20’s I was terribly self-conscious. I worried all day that everyone was judging me. I tried to armour myself against that judgement with achievements, belongings, and my appearance. I felt if I just had the coolest job, the trendiest outfit, and knew all the hot new bands and restaurants, THEN I’d be immune to the judgement of others.
It didn’t work. No matter how hard I tried, there was always something not quite right. I’d find myself stressing that my socks were too tall or my belt was too thin. If there was a pimple on my chin or my hair was too flat then my fears and self doubt would get louder. Not to mention I was partying 6 nights a week trying to keep up with ‘the scene’ and it was killing me.
I knew there had to be another way. I was tired of beating myself up and I knew not everyone felt this way. I saw people out there who were confident, authentic and happy, and yet they didn’t even seem AWARE of their appearance to look at them. HOW DID THEY DO IT? I noticed there was an energy exuding from WITHIN these people that transcended their exterior self. I started to realize that confidence was an inside job. Instead of defining my worth by my exterior, I was going to have to focus my attention inwards.
I went to yoga, started meditating and changed my diet and lifestyle habits. I took the time to really get to know myself. Quietly. Without judgement. I got in touch with my body and the messages it had for me. Giving it the rest, exercise and nourishment it needed to function optimally. In the quiet moments I started to notice a feeling within me, deep in my chest and solar plexus, there was a tingling, a new feeling. It felt GOOD. Instead of the dread and anxiety that sat on my chest like a dark cloud, there was a lightness, I was feeling good!
Without all the negative noise in my head, I was able to recognize the good stuff. I could hear compliments from people and really believe them. I could see the positive impact I had on those around me. I was taking care of myself and I was proud of that. The good was starting to outweigh the bad.
This is an ongoing process, but I’ve come to know my value and my worth. I’m not up on the hot new tunes or trends anymore but I stand confidently in the knowledge of my internal worth and it helps give me the courage and clarity to move forward towards my ultimate potential!
You don’t need a lifestyle overall to find your value. It’s always in there, waiting to be recognized. Together we can uncover it and bring you the confidence you desire! Reach out to start the conversation, I’d love to hear from you!